I think you’ve hit the nail on the head here!
This is a very valid point, at a time when there’s a fair bit of fairly anti male media coverage. Of course the solution to issues facing men is to focus on positive ventures such as International Mens’ Day, and a variety of similar/associated activities and organisations. A hobby (or workspace) should never be seen as a “safe space” for any group.
Albeit inevitably it will always be the case that certain activities and environments are male dominated, heritage railways included, simply because far more men than women have enough of an interest in the subject to spend their free time volunteering. The key thing is that those women who do wish to take part aren’t made to feel unwelcome or “othered”.
Demographics will also be a factor. You’ll often find that people at an age - say 25 to 55 - where they’re working/raising a family will have less time to spend on hobbies like this. Hence a preponderance of volunteers who are both younger and older.
When mental health is in crisis, and men are committing suicide in such huge numbers, society as a whole needs to be more concerned. Perhaps (appropriate) male only environments provide an outlet where men feel they can express themselves and be listened to without judgement - no different to any other group. That has absolutely nothing to do with sexism.
I agree with you
What happened to this and many other female volunteers is totally unacceptable and I know it is worse towards other minorities due to the demographics of those volunteering on heritage railways and it must stop.
Unfortunately we are in a world where everyone has their "ism" and behaves in an "ist" way towards one group or another.
Unfortunately all efforts are regarding diversity issues with women and minorities and ignores the fact that men also suffer equal levels of abuse in silence.
Boys are taught in schools dominated by women, with curriculums that have been adjusted to benefit girls by changing their emphasis. English & the Arts dominate whilst Maths & Science are under resourced. Progression & progress is schools is measured by girls attainment whereas boys who are later starters suffer. Men do not teach as they have been hounded out by allegations against them and the working environment but we see women in Engineering promoted yet men in teaching is not.
In family life the family court system automatically determines that mothers are best to look after children. A mother can simply imply or create a situation of apparent aggression by a father to gain custody / residence and hence cut the father from family life. This results in men loosing everything and yet still have to pay for their kids upbringing despite not being able to see their kids. I spent 8 years in family court to see my kids then keep them, so much effort against a system heavily bias against men. I saw many men at their wits end, complete wrecks and borderline suicidal. I won through acting in person and utter determination, despite there being 22 people representing the mother versus me on my own in court. The Judge shook my hand and congratulated me as I'd made history apparently!
In relationships all we hear about is violence against women. So why is it then men die by suicide in relationships at a rate of multiple times than women die or suffer? This is because women use a different kind of aggression. There was a recent case where a 66 yo Penelope Jackson killed her husband as he was 'violent' towards her. Turned out in court he was not and she had driven her previous husband to suicide and tried with 2 others! This is not all one way.
Today in the UK there are so many more things acting against men than women. I know that this is not the case is many other countries where women suffer unacceptably, but this is the UK.
Whilst it is unacceptable what was said to her, men equally receive those types of comment from women, yet apparently to men it's a compliment so acceptable.
Employers & interviewers are known to recruit in their own image. This discriminated is against her, but equally men, different social groups, ethnicities suffer the same in different environments, it's just that men have no route for complaint.
We hear than men are aggressors & bullies so are somehow less trustworthy, but guess which professions have the highest rates of bullying & harassment? Teaching & Nursing which are female dominated! I took out a complaint against a women manager who was a bully and harassed me for work at all hours. It was rejected simply in their owns words because she was a women & I a man and they even had the cheek to say if it had been the other way around I would have been fired!
Equality goes all ways and I feel upset in what has happened to this lady, but men are today's real victims and it's about time we stood up for ourselves whilst equally supporting women and other minorities by treating them the way we expect to be treated.
Friday 19th November is International Men's Day - lets celebrate it!