Am maybe at a loose end -- but; remorse prompted by an item which recently happened to show up.
At a time of family crisis, I lived for a couple of years in my early teens with (very kind, and much-loved) relatives. Teenagers -- even non-riotous ones -- tend to be in various ways, annoying little wretches who -- knowing no better, or just out of boredom and / or perversity; behave sub-optimally. I love maps, including British Ordnance Survey ones. The abovementioned relatives had a fair selection of same, of assorted regions and dates: including an OS "inch-to-the-mile" one, dating from just-post-World-War-II -- area Cheltenham and Evesham. I was indulging a lifelong subject of fantasy-fodder, of mine: dreaming of British narrow-gauge lines which never existed, but which one would wish to have done -- took it into my head to "improve" said map, by drawing on it, such a rail line.
For many decades of hindsight, it has been blindingly obvious to me that in a situation of that desire: I should have asked permission of my relatives, the map's owners; and if they had said "no", cheerfully accepted that judgement. Odious 13- or 14-year-old I, however, did not do that: unbeknownst to relatives and in their absence, I went ahead and -- with ink and coloured pencils -- added to the map, my fantasised line: it was an independent 2ft. 6in. gauge concern, running between two different GWR routes: from Broadway to Bourton-on-the-Water -- I remember that I used the OS symbol for narrow gauge, existing in the early 1960s, but not yet thought of fifteen-odd years before, date of the actual map. I performed this deed with considerable care, and felt quite proud of it. Either my -- extremely and, I feel, undeservedly-to-me, kind -- relatives noticed over time, what I'd done, but chose to "turn a blind eye" and not raise the matter with me; or they were and remained genuinely unaware of my action; but I never heard anything from them, about it.
Decades later: those relatives died, at a great age and much mourned by all who had known them. Assorted material which had been theirs, went to assorted relatives -- with my being the family's recognised "map nut", their map collection came into my possession. This including the Cheltenham-and-Evesham sheet which, way back, I had defiled. Since this map's coming to me: I've never wanted to venture to open it and cast eyes on my offence of some sixty years ago (as I type this, I'm looking at it on my desk, unopened) -- I feel already, acute-enough remorse over what I did: actually looking at "the evidence", would intensify that remorse.
Am I being rather strange here; or does anyone else comparably feel bad about stuff which in relatively extreme youth, they did (not necessarily railway-oriented) which while not breaking the laws of the land -- was nonetheless, in hindsight, shamingly improper?
At a time of family crisis, I lived for a couple of years in my early teens with (very kind, and much-loved) relatives. Teenagers -- even non-riotous ones -- tend to be in various ways, annoying little wretches who -- knowing no better, or just out of boredom and / or perversity; behave sub-optimally. I love maps, including British Ordnance Survey ones. The abovementioned relatives had a fair selection of same, of assorted regions and dates: including an OS "inch-to-the-mile" one, dating from just-post-World-War-II -- area Cheltenham and Evesham. I was indulging a lifelong subject of fantasy-fodder, of mine: dreaming of British narrow-gauge lines which never existed, but which one would wish to have done -- took it into my head to "improve" said map, by drawing on it, such a rail line.
For many decades of hindsight, it has been blindingly obvious to me that in a situation of that desire: I should have asked permission of my relatives, the map's owners; and if they had said "no", cheerfully accepted that judgement. Odious 13- or 14-year-old I, however, did not do that: unbeknownst to relatives and in their absence, I went ahead and -- with ink and coloured pencils -- added to the map, my fantasised line: it was an independent 2ft. 6in. gauge concern, running between two different GWR routes: from Broadway to Bourton-on-the-Water -- I remember that I used the OS symbol for narrow gauge, existing in the early 1960s, but not yet thought of fifteen-odd years before, date of the actual map. I performed this deed with considerable care, and felt quite proud of it. Either my -- extremely and, I feel, undeservedly-to-me, kind -- relatives noticed over time, what I'd done, but chose to "turn a blind eye" and not raise the matter with me; or they were and remained genuinely unaware of my action; but I never heard anything from them, about it.
Decades later: those relatives died, at a great age and much mourned by all who had known them. Assorted material which had been theirs, went to assorted relatives -- with my being the family's recognised "map nut", their map collection came into my possession. This including the Cheltenham-and-Evesham sheet which, way back, I had defiled. Since this map's coming to me: I've never wanted to venture to open it and cast eyes on my offence of some sixty years ago (as I type this, I'm looking at it on my desk, unopened) -- I feel already, acute-enough remorse over what I did: actually looking at "the evidence", would intensify that remorse.
Am I being rather strange here; or does anyone else comparably feel bad about stuff which in relatively extreme youth, they did (not necessarily railway-oriented) which while not breaking the laws of the land -- was nonetheless, in hindsight, shamingly improper?