SillyTraveller
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I think you need to wait at least 4 weeks to see if you hear anything from them in writing to be honest before there is any point you writing to them. So far you have only had a week.
Obv this is not easy as it is stressing you out, but best advice I think I can give is for you to try not to think about it any more for a few weeks.
Of course the person speaking to your husband can not gaurantee it will not go direct to court, so will have to say that, but I think every chance is that they will write to you asking for your side of the story.
I too can of course never say never, but there was a thread on here a while back about cases at court for fare evasion and reported in the local paper of the area concerned with a list of the names and addresses of those being prosecuted. I searched on line for a few of the names. For each one I found they clearly were people 'well known to the courts' with frequent offences and court appearances for all sorts of things like drugs / knife crime / other fare evasion etc etc. All people who I am sure would have ignored the process and not engaged with it and then ultimately ended up in court (where they probably also did not engage / not turn up) and almost certainly then found guilty in their absence. This is so far from your circumstances as to have no comparison really.
I think you just need to wait a few more weeks.
Thank you. I guess I need to learn to live with the not knowing at the moment. I have seeked some help via a union and engaged in some counselling so I hope that will help me in the meantime.Unfortunately the wheels move very slowly on this sort of thing.
I know it’s easy for me to say this but you need to try and forget about it for now and get on with your life. There is nothing you can do until the letter arrives.
Also discussed the need to tell work and/or my regulatory body and I have been told that I do not have any obligation to do so and it would not go against me in any way if I did not tell them until after a charge (if this isn't settled out of court). If it is settled out of court, I am under no obligation to tell them either. I also was told that due to the nature of the offence, I would unlikely be struck off or lose my job because it is not directly putting patients at risk.
Thank you. Yes, I think the fear of the unknown is the worst. The man at SE was very helpful but yes could not say because obviously he does not know either. He said that SE's intention is not to prosecute and ruin people's lives as that is not what they are there to do. So I will remain hopeful.I think you need to wait at least 4 weeks to see if you hear anything from them in writing to be honest before there is any point you writing to them. So far you have only had a week.
Obv this is not easy as it is stressing you out, but best advice I think I can give is for you to try not to think about it any more for a few weeks.
Of course the person speaking to your husband can not gaurantee it will not go direct to court, so will have to say that, but I think every chance is that they will write to you asking for your side of the story.
I too can of course never say never, but there was a thread on here a while back about cases at court for fare evasion and reported in the local paper of the area concerned with a list of the names and addresses of those being prosecuted. I searched on line for a few of the names. For each one I found they clearly were people 'well known to the courts' with frequent offences and court appearances for all sorts of things like drugs / knife crime / other fare evasion etc etc. All people who I am sure would have ignored the process and not engaged with it and then ultimately ended up in court (where they probably also did not engage / not turn up) and almost certainly then found guilty in their absence. This is so far from your circumstances as to have no comparison really.
I think you just need to wait a few more weeks.
That's interesting about those cases and reassures me. Like you say, I don't fit into that category at all so that's one thing I have going for me. I just worry about the scale of time more than anything.
I will keep waiting. Thank you again.
Thank you Hadders. I will try and do so.Unfortunately the wheels move very slowly on this sort of thing.
I know it’s easy for me to say this but you need to try and forget about it for now and get on with your life. There is nothing you can do until the letter arrives.
I have contacted my union now too. They have advised me not to inform my regulatory body until/unless a charge has been given. He said it would not go against me by not telling them in this stage. Same goes with my employer but that I can tell them if I am under emotional distress. They also said that because this is not directly related to patient care and because I don't have any work concerns then it would likely not be raised as fitness to practice.
I have been totally and utterly stupid. I have learnt so much from this.
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