Anyone who knows me from other forums will be unsurprised that this is pretty long. I apologise in advance.
My parents first noticed something was different about me when I was a baby. I never needed much sleep, and would only eat one kind of baby food, which caused Mum to trek across Birmingham (where we lived at the time) to get hold of as much as she could due to it being discontinued. When I was fed mashed-up carrot & potato, I'd spit the potato out, which I'll admit is pretty disgusting, but I was only young at the time! It took a year of effort to get me to eat potato, and Mum used a rather ingenious method - Alphabet Letters. Main reason being that I used to love watching Countdown, and would often watch it while standing on my head. Don't ask.
Mum replaced some of the I's with normal chips, which I somehow didn't notice, and then eventually revealed what was inside them. For years, the only veg I'd eat was carrots, though I've got much better over the past couple of years. Still don't want to touch anything green, and salad's out of the question, though I'll quite happily have raw onion in a burger. Speaking of which, I long for the day when McDonald's allow you to properly make your own burger as opposed to adapting pre-existing menu options.
I was officially diagnosed with Asperger syndrome when I was 11 in 2003, and I at last had an answer as to why I was a bit weird. One thing I've struggled with for years is noise, and getting some noise-cancelling headphones last year has been an absolute game-changer. I only normally wear them when I'm out and about to eliminate as much ambient noise as possible, and it's amazing just how good they are. Clothing's an interesting one for me. Material isn't normally much of a problem, though fit can be - I don't like anything tight on my torso, but it's the other way around on my legs.
Getting employment was tricky. After failing my law degree, my parents pushed me into getting a job, which I was apprehensive about, given my past failures whenever I'd tried. I mentioned my Asperger syndrome on every form, and never got anywhere. Didn't mention it when I applied for Sainsbury's in 2013, and got the job. Didn't mention it to anyone until my first day, but it wasn't an issue. My then-manager eventually told me that it wouldn't have been a problem if I had mentioned it, but my past experience made me think differently. The job was in the clothing department, which wasn't my first choice, but I just had to take what was available at the time. I struggled for a while with poor leadership from my team leaders and basically feeling undervalued, but one person changed all that. She got me doing way more than replenishing stock - I assisted with changing layouts to accommodate new lines, and was left in charge of the department on a couple of occasions while she was on holiday, leaving a list of things that needed to be done each day. The first time, everything on the list was done. Second time? I walked in on Friday morning to find that everything had been finished the previous night, so cue me trying to think of something productive to do!
I was told I'd done a great job of keeping things running, which made me really happy. I moved over to our store's petrol station in 2016, and have been there ever since. I also do shifts in other stores, particularly convenience stores, as and when help is needed, and sometimes at short notice. It helps me deal with change and working in unfamiliar environments, though I know the staff & layout of two convenience stores pretty well now, which makes things a lot easier.
Crowds are an interesting one. I can deal with concerts fine, as there's something else going on. Plus I've often had a bit to drink, which helps.
Large crowds in public are something I do struggle with, and I came close to a panic attack while on Westminster Bridge in November 2016, though my head was on another planet at that time due to my grandmother having died a couple of days previously. (She'd been diagnosed with a rather aggressive form of bile duct cancer earlier that year which had spread quickly, and we knew the prognosis wasn't very good.) I was lucky to have a friend with me at the time, as I think I would've really struggled otherwise.
Changes in plans are something I've struggled with, but working in retail has really helped with that. I've now learned to cope with tasks having to change almost immediately, and now find it weird when something unexpected
doesn't happen on a shift! Attempting the Tube Challenge in 2017 (and completing it in 2018) was another thing. I worked incredibly hard on getting a timetable together, but knew that things may go wrong and we'd have to adjust things on the day. We missed out by three stations in 2017 thanks to doing it on a Sunday (big mistake) and a jobsworth bus driver not accepting one of our perfectly valid tickets. 2018 had a signal failure on the District line at Earl's Court, which screwed us up a bit, but we JUST managed it by getting on the last train to Heathrow T4. Tried the Paris Métro challenge last November, getting over 90% of the network, in spite of random station closures due to protests by the
gilets jaunes and poor signage regarding said closures in some stations. With Paris, we
really had to think on our feet and make it up as we went along during the day. Close to the end, we were completely shattered and struggled to think, but it was all worth it.
One of my crowning achievements was going on the first series of
Junior Mastermind in 2004, with my specialist subject being 'Formula 1 from 1990-2004'. I didn't win - in fact, I was last in my heat - but it was a really worthwhile experience, and a great lesson in dealing with disappointment. Just getting on TV was an achievement in of itself, and I was so proud of myself for that! Getting a free weekend in a Hilton hotel (paid for by the BBC) was great as well. Given we were living in Cornwall at the time, it was very much needed! My heat was the second one to be filmed, but it ended up being transmitted first due to the final scores being so much closer than the scores in the heat filmed first. Another big special interest of mine is the Eurovision Song Contest, to the point where I watch all of Sweden's six-week-long national final. Still don't know very much Swedish.
Theatre's a huge love of mine. I've been in various amateur musicals over the years, and have seen a few West End shows. Favourite play is 'The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time'. Loved the book to bits, as I could easily see the parallels between Christopher and myself. Seeing it on the stage was a whole different experience. Watching different facets of my personality being acted out in front of me was wonderful, yet also uncomfortable at times, which I guess is one of the points of theatre. As for musicals? Has to be 'Dear Evan Hansen'. Watched it from one of the boxes by the stage, and I think that helped me connect with the show on another level. So relatable on a number of levels due to my autism, and yet also a painful reminder of how I've let my issues get the better of me on a number of occasions. Just listen to 'Waving Through a Window'. I've never been pulled through so many emotions while watching anything in the theatre before, and just knew that Sam Tutty (the guy playing Evan) would win an Olivier Award. Which he did! I can't wait for the film to come out within the next couple of years - I'll probably be in tears for most of it, but I don't care.
Moving around the country due to the nature of my Dad's job in the Methodist Church has made settling into new areas tricky. I can take a while to make friends, and to leave them behind is distressing. Settling into new areas is tough, and I was badly bullied in one area due to being autistic and because of my Dad's job. It also didn't help that in many churches I attended, there were very few people of my age, and in one church, all the kids were treated as though they were in Key Stage 1, despite us all being teenagers. We all left the Sunday School
en masse because we were fed up of it, and I left that church along with my Mum & brothers after some incredibly appalling remarks were made about our family that were completely untrue. The church I attend in Congleton has a number of people my age, and there's a weekly Bible study that I attend with them. For the first time in what feels like forever, I feel valued there, and people don't mind that I'm different.
In terms of the future, I don't know what will happen thanks to COVID, but I might as well stay secure where I am with Sainsbury's for now. I'm studying for a Maths degree with the Open University, and passed my first year with an overall score of 89%, which I'm VERY happy with.