Phil56
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This must surely have been a long time ago. Seating plans are done very differently today and if incidents of bullying are occuring, the relevant students will be separated.
These days a parent can simply make the request and it would be enacted. If things were different back in your day then that was very wrong. Some people are keen to say how our society was so much 'better' back in the "good olden days" of the 1950s/60s/70s/whatever and that just isn't true.
Sorry to hear this happened to you. This wouldn't happen today
It was late 80s and early 90s, so not in the "dark ages" of the 50/60/70's. It was a supposedly good and well respected comp.
I'm not sure about that kind of seating/grouping not happening today. My son is at Uni, so was at secondary during 2013 to 2020 and he definitely had seating plans/groupings based on alphabetical order of surnames. He was lucky in that those near him in the alphabet weren't the bullying kind. He did say that he was lucky as he knew of other classmates who had the "wrong" surname and were suffering bullying because of the groups they were always assigned into!
Presumably not all schools are enlightened as yours!
but the teacher explained it's a lot harder for them to deal with such allegations these days because a lot of the bullying takes place outside of school, often online or on social media. I'm not really sure how much a teacher can do about that?
Well, they can at least try to protect the victim when at school can't they, i.e. keep them apart in lessons (different groupings, far away in class seating plans), support a transfer to a different form, or different "sets". The teacher can allow them to keep separated at breaks/form time and lunchtimes, i.e. grant an exemption for the victim to be allowed to stay in the library (or other indoor "safe" place) at breaks or lunchtimes.
I agree, not much they can do when outside school or online but if they "dilute" the exposure within the school grounds/school day, it may help reduce the out of school bullying, if nothing else, by "out of sight, out of mind".
I did get a bit of respite in a couple of ways when a couple of decent teachers actually took my bullying seriously. One, a games teacher, allowed me to do swimming for the full year (everyone else just did it for a term), so that I didn't get bullied by the "alpha males" on the football and rugby pitches (and changing rooms), which was a massive relief. The other was a drama teacher who suggested I joined the stage lighting team for school plays, which gave me permission to go into the school hall (in fact under the stage) at breaks and lunchtimes to work on the lighting - (nudge, nudge, wink, wink, just make sure you have a light on the table if a teacher looks in!) all year as a kind of "escape" if the bullying/abuse got too much in the corridors, form rooms, or outside, which was an absolute godsend at times. Of course, you shouldn't have to hide away, but it was a pragmatic solution for me to get out of their way. Would have been better for the teachers to challenge the bullies, but hey-ho, it was better than no help at all.
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