Geezertronic
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westv said:Oh yes! Spelling error corrected.
I always thought it was “missus” rather than “misses.”
The missus misses the point, but don't tell her I said so
westv said:Oh yes! Spelling error corrected.
I always thought it was “missus” rather than “misses.”
We don't normally say "the" unless we are referring to an object or an animal.Using "the missus" is just an informal way of saying "my wife" and I really don't see a problem with it. It's how you describe your relationship to someone; should we ban the use of "my mum" or "my granda" because they also imply ownership?
Yes, but his wife (and, more specifically, mother-in-law) were fictional constructs, which doesn't mean he wasn't married, just not to the characters portrayed. I believe his wife was much younger (cf Bruce Forsyth, et al).Saying “the wife” reminds me of Northern comedians like Les Dawson back in the 1970s
Have you asked your wife?Such a ridiculous discussion imo. There’s nothing sexist or offensive about “the Mrs”. Can’t believe people are even having this conversation.
We don't normally say "the" unless we are referring to an object or an animal.
What if the wife referred to you as "the husband"? Would there be such a stramash?Have you asked your wife?
What if the wife referred to you as "the husband"? Would there be such a stramash?
Many years ago a friend’s boyfriend thought that a stramash was the name for stew with lots of tomato in it. I think that he had heard it jokingly called that by somebody who, presumably, thought it looked the result of a stramash, but he himself did not realise it was a joke.What if the wife referred to you as "the husband"? Would there be such a stramash?
It's a good word, though
*Edit* Try "Stairheid rammy"
I think you exaggerate.What if the wife referred to you as "the husband"? Would there be such a stramash?
Eleven out of ten for that.I don't use "the wife" and I am trying to work out why. It does imply that she is property rather than a person, I think. I do use "my wife" when talking to somebody I don't know well - as in "I am trying to choose a present for my wife" to a shop assistant. But it feels best to use her name whenever possible.
We don't normally say "the" unless we are referring to an object or an animal.
In terms of 'the wife', I find it impersonal. I have challenged a colleague several times 'does she have a name?'. I don't mind 'my wife', as that implies you are 'her husband'; it's a two way relationship.
The woman in the the shop. The Kid down the road. We use 'the' to refer to people all the time.We don't normally say "the" unless we are referring to an object or an animal.
You just said 'my wife' in your second sentence, she has a name you know!I refer to her by her name.
I hate the term this is "my wife" as to me it is deeply misogynistic and suggests ownership or property. My wife is free to make her own decisions and live her own life without having to ask permission.
I also despise this phrase. It implies that you become one person in a couple. I think everyone should be considered an individual.'The other half' is the phrase I despise, spoken by both sexes. I'm very tempted to ask 'is that the half who stores the brains?', but maybe that explains why I've lived with a broken nose for decades. Married continuously since the 1960s by the way, with no parole granted.
This! That word causes all sorts of issues. Gender identity does blur the lines further.I say "my partner" or their name given we aren't married but the relationship feels too serious to say "girlfriend". There's also the fun question of gender identity so girlfriend wouldn't quite fit regardless.
Please don’t, it is definitely not simple for anyone who doesn’t know youAm single (and not at all bitter about it lol), but if I weren't, I'd use 'my partner' or their name when/if they come up in conversation. Simple as that.
Please don’t, it is definitely not simple for anyone who doesn’t know you
Complete and utter nonsense.I would remove the definition of the word “partner” to mean spouse from the dictionary. Then everyone would be labelled as girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband accordingly. Removing the sensitive issue of having to either ask or guess a person’s sexuality would make my job a lot easier. Especially as we shouldn’t ask with the new equality guidelines in place.
“Partner” is typically only used by those in stagnant relationships. It lacks clarity on how significant the other person is. If an endearing label is not used or someone is branded as “the” we question whether the couple is actually a couple.
We cannot assume all men have wifes and all women husbands, but the truth is we do. But as soon as “partner” is uttered the assumption is the person is being discreet about being gay.
Does it grate with anybody else when people say the above rather than "my wife" or her name? Saying "the" always makes me think of someone saying "the cat", "the dog" or "the car" or similar.
I'm not sure I've ever heard someone say "The husband" or "The Mr".
I refer to her by her name.
I hate the term this is "my wife" as to me it is deeply misogynistic and suggests ownership or property. My wife is free to make her own decisions and live her own life without having to ask permission.
Yeah.. no. Totally wrong.“Partner” is typically only used by those in stagnant relationships.